How To Be The Best Boss For Yourself

10 ways to start taking control (time management, goal setting, record tracking)

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it.

6. Squash the "ANTs"
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family)
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they're uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won't solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we're turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we're not doing our best.

Combine passion with focus and deermination and you will win

This is a fantastic proof that if we are really passionate about our dreams an make them our goals, stay focused and driven by determination, we will overcome all failures and eventually see that what was once a dream is now reality.....

UNLOCK YOUR SELF IMPROVEMENT POWER

It has been long time since my last post but I am back and want to share with you some thoughts on self improvement. Too often when we think about improving our work, relationships, social life, etc., we are looking for new skills or things to get....ignoring what we already have...Should we not start with looking at what we already achieved or failed with and use it, learn from own experience?

When we look at a certain object, a painting for example – we won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what is painted and what else goes with it if the painting is just an inch away from our face. But if we try to take it a little further, we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole art work.

We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and a whole bunch of information that will help us unlock our self improvement power. Until then, something can be staring us right under our nose but we don’t see it. The only time we think of unlocking our self improvement power is when everything got worst. Take the frog principle for example –

Try placing Frog A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps! He jumps off! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate sudden change in his environment – the water’s temperature. Then try Frog B: place him in a luke warm water, then turn the gas stove on. Wait til the water reaches a certain boiling point. Frog B then thinks “Ooh… it’s a bit warm in here”.

People are like Frog B in general. Today, Anna thinks Carl hates her. Tomorrow, Patrick walks up to her and told her he hates her. Anna stays the same and doesn’t mind her what her friends says. The next day, she learned that Kim and John also abhors her. Anna doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for self improvement until the entire community hates her.

We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we realize that we need to change diets? When none of our jeans and shirts would fit us. When do we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all of our teeth has fallen off. When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad. When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re gonna die tomorrow.

The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our self improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling apart. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But change becomes more painful when we ignore it.

Change will happen, like it or hate it. At one point or another, we are all going to experience different turning points in our life – and we are all going to eventually unlock our self improvement power not because the world says so, not because our friends are nagging us, but because we realized its for our own good.


Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, you don’t have to feel a tremendous heat before realizing the need for self improvement. Unlocking your self improvement power means unlocking yourself up in the cage of thought that “its just the way I am”. It is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change. Most of us program our minds like computers.

Jen repeatedly tells everyone that she doesn’t have the guts to be around groups of people. She heard her mom, her dad, her sister, her teacher tell the same things about her to other people. Over the years, that is what Jen believes. She believes its her story. And what happens? Every time a great crowd would troop over their house, in school, and in the community – she tends to step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jen didn’t only believed in her story, she lived it.

Jen has to realize that she is not what she is in her story. Instead of having her story post around her face for everyone to remember, she has to have the spirit and show people “I am an important person and I should be treated accordingly!”

Self improvement may not be everybody’s favorite word, but if we look at things in a different point of view, we might have greater chances of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days until we are fully improved. Three sessions in a week at the gym would result to a healthier life, reading books instead of looking at porns will shape up a more profound knowledge, going out with friends and peers will help you take a step back from work and unwind. And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self improvement power, you’ll realize that you’re beginning to take things light and become happy.

3 key pillars of successful career

I am sure you noticed how many people blame recession for all money and work related problems. Most of them are scared to make even the smallest change because "time is not right", "economy is unstable", "people losing jobs", "it is not save to invest money" etc. etc. Yet there is a small percentage of people who do not care about recession and keep implementing their ideas and getting success in achieving their goals.

I have spoken recently with many people who have been made redundant or are just about to take redundancy. I am sure you have at least one friend in this situation. It is such a common thing right now that when you ask someone "How is your work?" you hear "Good thanks, I still have job."

What I have noticed is two different groups of professionals, those unsecured, complaining and scared of tomorrow. Loosing job made them crashed and totally lost. The second group are people who are progressing with their careers or businesses better than ever before. Their getting promoted, changing jobs for better, increasing profits, opening own businesses. It is easy to recognise them as they always happy, positive about everything, with such a high self-confidence that you start thinking what planet they are coming from. They are just successful people.

So what makes successful people different from masses of those failing and struggling all the time? Well, this all about the mindset, ability to take everything what happens in your life as a challenge and opportunities rather than problems or difficulties.

1.FOCUS

Whatever you do remember to stay focused on your goals, on what you want to achieve, who you want to become, what you want to get. Do not focus on what you do not have, what you are missing. Why? Because you experience what you focus on. So when you focus on your goal you will start noticing opportunities which can get you closer to the goal.

Someone once said: "Energy goes where the focus flows" - Consider this in your daily activities:)


2.CAUSE & EFFECT SIDE OF EQUATION

Which side of the equation are you at?
Are you at the CAUSE - Do you create all the things that happen in your life?

Are you at the EFFECT - Are you the effect of things that happen to you?

Think who controls your life?

If your life is full of problems and issues that are not working for you, if you always have excuses or reasons but never have results you are not in control of your life, you are on the effect side of the equation. Do you say: "I would be successful but.....?"

Results lye on the cause side of the equation.

Believing in being responsible for everything what happens in your life empowers.

Everything is your RESPONSIBILTY, nothing is your fault!

3.BELIEFS

Your beliefs will determine the actions you take and results you produce.

Review your negative beliefs and see if they serve you. They do not, do they? They are stopping you from moving forward and getting results you want. The good news is that you can change them into positive, supporting beliefs.

Beliefs are generalisations, most of them you adapted in very early age, from your parents, teachers, colleagues, population. Many of them you created as an effect of one bad situation in your life. Again, it could be something what happened years ago.

How to get rid of them? Think about evidences supporting the negative belief you have. How many situations, results of your acting (facts, not opinions and thoughts) prove that belief you have? You will be surprised how hard will be to find those evidences. Think about the belief as a table. You must have at least 4 legs (evidences) to keep it stable:)

Shift your focus, stay on the cause side, follow positive beliefs and you will see changes are coming through.

Have a successful day!

What this is all about

A few days ago during a friendly conversation with a few of my colleagues I have been told that everyone wants better career. Wow, that is a big message to hear. Are we all so unhappy with our professional lifes? Maybe not every day but sometimes yes, some of us more often then other. A few of us never want to even talk about their job, boss, professional progression, money, etc. It can be really that bad to build career you are happy about.
The conversation with my colleagues the other day made me to start blogging about career development. I will be sharing here some career coaching tips with you so you can apply it straight away in your life. I will share with you anything I know and will learn, hear or see from all succesfful and satisfied career makers.

Read my blog and please engage. I will highly value all your constructive comments.